3 Things to Know About Domestic Violence During the Holidays
The holiday season is often seen as a nostalgic and magical time for families. But for many moms and children facing domestic violence, it's a season of intensified fear and uncertainty. New Mercies volunteers are currently walking alongside several courageous moms who are taking steps to leave unsafe environments. Our mission is to come alongside parents going through even the hardest circumstances and help them see a way out. Domestic violence is no different.
Here are three important things to know about domestic violence and the holidays:
1. Domestic violence spikes around the holidays.
Although commonly overlooked, domestic violence incidents rise during the holidays. A study by the National Commission on COVID-19 and Criminal Justice found a 7.9% increase in domestic violence incidents during the 2020 holiday season compared to other times of the year. Law enforcement and emergency departments across the country often report similar surges around Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s.
Why? Heightened financial stress, more time at home, disrupted routines, and increased substance use all contribute to more volatile household dynamics. For women already walking on eggshells, the holidays can push already unsafe situations to a breaking point.
2. Isolation increases danger.
Abuse thrives in silence and secrecy. During the holidays, many women feel pressured to keep their families together for the sake of appearances or tradition. Abusers often use emotional manipulation or the presence of extended family to mask the reality of what is happening behind closed doors.
This isolation is not just dangerous for moms—it’s also harmful to children. According to the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, up to 60% of children exposed to domestic violence are also direct victims of abuse or neglect.
3. Children are deeply impacted, even when they are not directly harmed.
Even when a child is not physically hurt, witnessing domestic violence leaves a lasting imprint. It can lead to anxiety, depression, trust issues, and long-term emotional trauma. During the holidays, when other children are enjoying gifts and family time, these children are often navigating fear and confusion.
Every child deserves to experience the joy of being known, protected, and cared for, especially during a season that celebrates peace on earth.
This season, let’s remember the hurting. Let’s be the Church that reaches into the hard places with love, not judgment. And let’s celebrate the hope of Christ who came to rescue, restore, and redeem.